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I think this is also more prevalent if your social circle and your personal mindset is geared towards bookish or nerdy pursuits, because like-minded dudes are often, as young men, shy and just beginning to learn the ropes of interacting with women. Everyone I knew put up with weird fpr push-pull namby pamby bullshit from otherwise awesome dudes when it came to romance.
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I have had older, wiser women, online even, mention this same observation to me when I was having heartache years ago, and they even had names for itsomething guy disease or nercy, I forget--and told me to be a little wary. I think the 20s are full of reflection for guys, maybe the way the teens are for girls, and all that reflection and reevaluation of their wants and personalities necessarily makes them narcissistic and self absorbed, and less able to bpy. The thing is, it gets better.
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I'm certainly hoping he apologized when you called him on it - being assertive is cool. Being a dick? Not so.
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And I think they're hurting you and the way you interact with. Now, you like what you like, and what you like seems to be decisiveness and assertiveness. Nothing wrong with. And you are who you are, and that's someone who doesn't care for fashion or a lot of the trappings of Decently nerdy boy searching for a nerdy girl femininity.
Nothing wrong with that. But it has nothing to do with "men" or "women". Guys who aren't assertive aren't feminine or weak - they're just not attractive to you. Look, stereotypes exist for a reason - because they work some of the time as a shortcut for making judgments about people.
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Wow, this thread has been amazing. I can't reiterate how useful all this advice is. Asking this question and receiving the appropriate responses has been one of the best things I've done for my love life in a while!
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I need to live outside my brain a little and more in my body, and start working on projecting this message. It would be a double standard to ask guys to be attracted to my mind and my "whatever, meh" appearance while asking them to be brilliant and confident in being a male.
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While you're out there, try to make some more girlfriends. I get the impression you don't have many, or the ones you have are all of the same type. There are some really smart really interesting "girly" girls out there that might teach you something about the value of female friendship, or at least help you break down your internal stereotypes. And I promise you, to survive dating in your early 20s, you are going to want some good female friendship.
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